In the dental office, we spend hours focusing on communication -- how to give clear instructions, motivate our teams, guide patients through financial conversations, and create a welcoming environment. However, one form of communication often speaks louder than anything we say out loud: our facial expressions.
As managers, we watch our teams closely, often picking up far more from our nonverbal cues than from the words we carefully choose. Sometimes, without even realizing it, our faces tell a completely different story than the one we intended to tell.
Ashley Tibbetts.
In the fast-paced dental office, we juggle constant demands: schedule changes, unexpected emergencies, insurance questions, team needs, patient concerns, and the daily rhythm of keeping operations running smoothly. With so much happening, it is easy for our expressions to slip into autopilot -- frustration, stress, surprise, or worry -- even when we're trying to maintain calm and project confidence.
But our teams see it instantly. They feel it before we speak. And often, they interpret it in ways we never intended.
A raised eyebrow might signal doubt. A tight smile may look like irritation. A glance during a stressful moment can be seen as a sign of disappointment. Even simple concentration can be misread as disapproval.
While we may be thinking about the next task or mentally organizing our day, our staff might see a look that makes them feel unsure or unsettled. This is especially true in dentistry, where teams rely heavily on support from co-workers, trust, and clear direction.
As managers, our facial expressions carry extra weight. They set the tone for the day, influence morale, and impact how comfortable our staff feels bringing concerns forward. A team member who misinterprets our expression may hesitate to ask a question, avoid bringing up a problem, or internalize something that was never actually directed at them. Over time, this can create unintentional barriers and unnecessary anxiety.
How then do we "fix our face" without feeling fake or forced?
The solution is not perfection, it is intentional awareness. One of the simplest tools is the pause reset. Before responding in a stressful moment, take a single breath and consciously soften your face. Drop your shoulders. Unclench your jaw. This brief pause not only helps regulate your own stress, but it also prevents your expression from escalating the situation before words are even exchanged.
Another powerful solution is narrating your expression. If you know your face may not match your thoughts, say it out loud. Statements like "I'm thinking, not upset" or "I'm focused on the schedule, not frustrated with you" immediately remove uncertainty and can help build psychological safety.
Managers can also practice a neutral, friendly expression during high-traffic moments, such as when phones are ringing, patients are checking in, and staff are asking questions. A relaxed face, soft eye contact, and a quick nod can go a long way in signaling approachability, even when you're busy.
Mirror check-ins can be surprisingly helpful. Glancing at yourself in a mirror or using a reflective surface throughout the day helps you become aware of habitual expressions you may not realize you're making. What feels neutral to you may appear tense to others.
Inviting trusted feedback is another leadership strength. Asking a senior team member, "Let me know if my face ever looks stressed when I do not intend for it to be," shows humility and coaxes open communication.
And when a miscommunication happens, it helps repair matters more when we address it than avoid it. Addressing it directly with "I realized my expression may have come across wrong earlier, and that was not my intention" builds trust far faster than pretending it didn't happen.
Effective leadership is not about hiding one's emotions or wearing a permanent smile. It is about clarity, consistency, and care. When we understand how our presence affects those around us, we lead with confidence instead of confusion.
At the end of the day, our face says it all. And when we use that awareness with kindness and purpose, we build teams who feel secure, valued, and empowered, not just because of what we say, but because of how we show up.
Ashley Tibbetts is the operations manager at Lakes Region Dental Care. With over eight years in the dental field, she is dedicated to creating efficient systems that support both exceptional patient care and a strong team culture. Tibbetts holds the American Association of Dental Office Management (AADOM) mastership designation.
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